Was reading an article last night that discussed the norms and behavior expected when trying to talk to someone online. Being twenty-four I really can’t discuss what it was like dating before the Internet and all the social/dating sites that now exist, but what I can discuss is how exhausting it is. I’m sure dating before the Internet had its disadvantages as well, but the Internet definitely brought new and probably more complex issues. You sign up for these sites and apps, then anxiously wait for a message or if you are brave enough, you make the first move. You spend hours checking these sites, hoping a message will appear. Then, you see a new message in your inbox, only to open it and find that it’s just someone basically wanting sex. Dead end! These sites are able to connect you to a lot more people than you could just walking around in the world searching for the right person. Yet, with more possibilities you still can’t find that right person. More possibilities but less results, that’s a bit depressing when you think about it.
I understand there is people who don’t want a relationship, they just want to calm the urges of the human body. Yet, a lot of these people disguise themselves as looking for friends and relationships, when all they really want is sex. Lets play fair here, if you want sex just say it. I want a relationship, I don’t go on these sites advertising something I don’t want. If everyone was just honest, we would all save time. If it wasn’t for my lack of social skills I would by-pass these sites, and just find someone out and about. Sadly, for the moment these are my options.
Someone told me I’m just old fashion and this is the way it is now. Maybe with such easy access to numerous people, many of us have taken for granted finding the right person quickly. Why worry about mr/ms right, when the Internet makes it easy to connect to all these people, it’ll happen at some point, for the time being ill just worry about right now. In the old days, you only had contact with the people around your area so there was no time to play around with all these random people, when you felt a spark you went for it because there wasn’t this buffet of people you could go through. You couldn’t risk just a one night stand, because who knows how long it would take to find another connection.
The Internet also seemed to paint this image that the perfect person is out there for you. There’s so many people, if someone has a trait you don’t like, you can just easily dismiss them. Sorry to break it to you, the perfect one doesnt exist! There’s no love at first sight either, sorry for that as well. Stop looking for perfection, or you will spend your whole life looking for something that doesn’t exist. Don’t disregard someone because they have a tiny imperfection. Love is about accepting each other, and growing as much together as individually. So your boyfriend’s farts smell like dead fish, I’d rather have someone with smelly farts that loves me, than being alone because I can’t date someone who farts sea life. As corny as it is, love does conquer all. These little imperfections will be overshadowed by the love you have for that person, just give it time and allow yourself to look pass these things in the beginning.
Yet, I keep these sites going because who knows where you will find the right one. Love isn’t just for the lucky. Love is for everyone who truly wants it, sometimes it just takes longer for some of us. So what if I’m old fashion, I can’t be the only one out there. It will happen, in the mean time I just have to be happy with myself and put out love in the world. They say you only get back what you put out there. So negativity and self loathing are out the window, positivity and happiness are back in style.