Some of us go through a great portion of our lives wanting to be normal. We don’t want to get singled-out, made fun of, feel like we don’t belong, or maybe we think that’s the only way to be. But what is normal? Normal does exist but it takes many different shapes. We can’t expect to have billions of people in the world and for all of us to be the same. Normal is in the eye of the beholder. My normal perception won’t be the same as yours, and that’s where we get into trouble.
A lot of people only have tunnel vision, so in their minds their normal is the real normal for the whole world. If you have had the same perception of normal for a significant portion of your life, anybody else that comes into your path that is outside of your normal can be perceived as unnatural and even a threat to your lifestyle. If you aren’t able to adapt your mindset to the fact that your way of living isn’t the only way to live, then you can become extremely defensive of your normal. You will shun, threatened, and think less of those who don’t fall into your guidelines for normal. There must be something wrong with them, how can they not see that they are unnatural?
We pride ourselves on being at the top of the food chain and being the smartest living things on this planet, but for such smart creatures we can sometimes be really daff. When we feel someone is threatening our lives in anyway, not just physically, we get so defensive. We need to learn that we are all inherently different. If we were all the same, it would be extremely boring on this planet. Diversity is a great thing for the evolution of mankind. Instead of wanting our normal to be everyone else’s, we should take time and learn about other people’s normals. We need to open our minds to the possibility of more than just one normal. Opening your mind to other people’s way of life doesn’t diminish your way of life, but staying closed minded can. You will be so worried about other people’s lifestyles and not living yours to your full potential.