A Daily Rant

Being a gay man, I’ve always tried to walk this line of not allowing the fact that I am gay define me as a person. I am more than just a gay man, that’s just a tiny aspect of who I am. Yet in the wolrd we live in now, that aspect is a big label I must choose to wear or hide. This moment in history calls for those who want change to speak loudly, and wear that label as visible as possible. There is nothing wrong with being gay but just not broadcasting it, that’s a personal choice. But in order to make change happen, we must change us. We must wear this label until the world realizes that this label is nothing more than just a tiny part of that person, not something that should define them.

I live in a world where I live in fear of holding another man’s hand or kissing a man I love in public. No one should live in a world where being themselves puts their life at risk. I know who I am, and so should the world. I am someone who wants to love and be loved. Why should I be afraid of love? Why should I be afraid to show my love to the world?

I want to live in a world where the word gay/lesbian/transgender are obsolete. I don’t want to be defined by a word. I want to be define by the kind of person I am. How I treat others. How I allow others to treat me. I just want to be Adrian.

Why can’t the world just be happy with that? 



Current Event: Phil Robertson’s Gay Remarks


I normally don’t talk about current events but I thought I’d give it a go. Let me know if you like this kind of thing on my blog.

Recently one of the stars of Duck Dynasty made some comments, in a GQ magazine interview, describing his views on homosexuals. He basically grouped homosexuals with terrorist and drunks; also stating homosexuals wouldn’t “inherit the Kingdom of God”. Just today the network, A&E, that airs the program suspended Phil Robertson indefinitely from the show due to his remarks.

You would think being a gay man I would be outraged or offended by his remarks, but if anything I’m more offended by the TV network that has pulled Phil out of his own reality show. My issue with this is, he was just stating his beliefs in a magazine article (as far as I know he has never mentioned any of this on his show) yet he is being punished for his beliefs. Now I for sure don’t agree with any of his comments, but that doesn’t mean I would wish harm against him.

Being gay I know that a a huge portion of people see my life as negative or lesser than their lives. I have no problem with people expressing their beliefs, as long as those beliefs are stated maturely and without hostility. If someone wants to say I’m as good as a terrorist, then that’s their opinion, I know I am not. Other people’s opinions don’t diminish who I am. I am who I am, someone trying to say something different doesn’t affect me at all. I have a fundamental issue with Phil hunting duck for sport or recreation, but I doubt he would be offended by me stating that. So why should I be offended by his remarks on something he may have no life experience with?

There is bigger battles out there, people who actually physically attack homosexuals or wish us ill will. Phil just stated his opinion, while maybe not the most eloquent manner, he didn’t wish homosexuals anything ill-mannered. If people are taking Phil’s commentray to heart and suddenly start hating homosexuals, then let’s be honest that person was never really on the equality train, no loss there. Plus, last I checked Phil wasn’t God, so I’ll take my chances being gay, how I was born.  


Lady Gaga Speaking and Singing at NYC Pride

Just wanted to share this video, which moved me. I doesn’t only speak to the gays but to any minority that has felt oppressed and strives to make that oppression a distant memory.

I may not be the biggest Lady Gaga fan but her speech on gays truly got to me. This week gays were acknowledged federally as being equal to all other couples out there. While we still have a long way to go, it’s really a giant step forward.

Lady Gaga’s rendition of our national song is truly moving. Beautiful!

Non-Humans Apparently Exist

I’m not one to play the gay card, but the blatant disregard to equality still baffles me. Living in America we hear all throughout our schooling that this is the country of freedom and prosperity but in various aspects that doesn’t apply. America likes to think of itself as a beacon of light to the rest of the world, but overtime it seems that this country has stopped shining. Fourteen countries around the world allow same-sex marriage, not including the United States (even though twelve states do recognize same-sex marriage). Yet, even though same-sex marriage might not be nationally recognized here in America other places have it much worse.

Russia recently has had a couple bills that blatantly discuss gays as less human than heterosexuals. One of the bills makes it illegal to tell children that homosexuality exist, or that homosexuals are equal to heterosexuality. The other bills makes it illegal for countries that allow same-sex marriage to adopt children, the bill also makes it illegal for single individuals to adopt (no matter the sexual orientation). While I understand that the majority of Russians support these bills (let’s be honest any poll from Russia is probably a little shady), this bill makes no common sense. There is children that need homes with a bill like this so many will not have the opportunity to prosper in a loving environment and will just disappear in the system.

Some of the opponents  on same-sex couples adopting say that gay individuals shouldn’t be able to adopt because they are pedophiles.  They seem to overlook that there is pedophiles that are straight. If the point of banning same-sex couples from adopting is children’s safety then probably no one should adopt a child. They also say same-sex couples will make the child become gay. Heaven forbid that there is another homosexual in the world, and newsflash we don’t learn to be gay, we just are. So instead of giving children the opportunity to thrive in a adoptive family, they rather the child stay in the adoptive system.

The argument against same-sex marriage is just as ludicrous.  Same-sex marriage threatens the institution of marriage. Fourteen countries allow same-sex marriages right now, and as far as I know those countries haven’t had a collapse of the marriage institution (I called the institution, they wouldn’t comment). If the gay couple next to you threatens your marriage, then your marriage must not have a stable and loving foundation. They also argue the Bible says homosexuality is wrong. Right off the bat, governments have a separation of church and government….republicans tend to forget this little fact here in America. The Bible mentions homosexuality very little, and where it is mentioned the verses could be interpreted in various ways. Who is to say their interpretation is the supreme one. 

It just amazes me that here in America we had Black Civil Rights, now people look back on those times and say they can’t believe there was discrimination. Well the Gay Civil Rights is the same thing, but this time instead of skin color people are discriminating a interior biological aspect.

I’m sorry to just rant but with Russia’s bills this week it’s really made me realize just how second class we are treated around the world. I’m not saying people should be made to love homosexuals but people should be able to agree that we all deserve the same rights, whether you agree with someone’s lives. We all share this world, no one should be superior to anybody else.