Imprinted Words

We’ve always heard words carry power, but imagine if the words you spoke became visible on your skin. The words you spoke to others would become visible for everyone to see. Would you be proud of your skin, or would you cover yourself up to hide the words written on them?

Now imagine not only the words you verbalize would appear on your skin, but the things you say to yourself. Not just your thoughts about other people, but what you say about yourself. Stupid. Worthless. Fat. Ugly.

When you speak and think negativty, you become engulfed in a negative world. Learn to appreciate others, and love yourself. If you want your skin to be beautiful, then make your mind as beautiful as you can make it.

Happy New Years Best Friends!

Just wanted to wish all of you a quick Happy New Years (from my tub)!

Remember everyday is a chance to grow and learn. Wake up each day with a smile and a passion to learn from every situation. Be a beacon of light and life.

Today is the Right Day

Don’t be worried about yesterday or tomorrow, there’s nothing you can do about it. Instead focus on what you can do today.

We spend so much energy worrying about mistakes in our past, or being afraid of what’s to come. If we learned to reroute that energy into our present day we would conquer each day.

Twenty Five at Twenty Five

Well, tomorrow I will be turning twenty-five. For as long as I can remember I’d always love my birthdays and always had plans to celebrate it, but this year I truly have no desire to celebrate it. Maybe it’s left over trauma from my birthday last year, or maybe I’m just over making a big deal out of a day that really is no different from all the other days. In any case, a few weeks back a blogger I follow on Tumblr, The Secret Diary of Jake, posted a list of things he has achieved and stuff he is proud of and I decided I’d do the same. Twenty-five things as I turn twenty-five.

1. One year ago I had my heart broken, and fell into the deepest depression/sadness I’ve ever experienced, but now I am the happiest I’ve ever been.

2. I’ve learned being single doesn’t mean being alone. Learn to appreciate the love you receive from people in your life, even if they aren’t your partner.

3. I am who I am, and I’m happy with it.

4. I don’t need to impress anyone, those who matter will appreciate me for the way I am.

5. I may not have full control of my life, but as long as I put out positivity the universe will happily guide me on the right path.

6. I may not fit perfectly into my family, but they care about me either way.

7. I am not right all the time, and that’s okay.

8. I am happy with my physcial self. I am pretty darn handsome, and I need to tell myself more often.

9. I don’t need to compare myself to others. We are all different, thus no one is better than someone else.

10. I’ve managed to find people in my life that accept and love me. I love my friends!

11. I’ve learned that being negative only leads to more negativity.

12. I’ve learned to not take myself to serious. You can make mistakes, it’ll be okay.

13. You finally gave avocados a chance, and now I love them.

14. I’ve learned to forgive is the only way to move forward. I won’t hold a grudge against anyone. No one is worth me staying in a negative mindset.

15. I’ve learned there is people out there who also feel out of place. Maybe we all feel that way. Doesn’t make us weird, just human.

16. I’ve started a “career” job. I kind of love it.

17. I’ve come out to people in my family, and it was okay.

18. I’ve learned that I do have value and are contributing to others happiness.

19. I’ve learned being happy is so much better than staying in the same bleek mood.

20. I’ve learned I can’t sing but that shouldn’t stop me from singing at the top of my lungs.

21. I shouldn’t beat myself down when things go wrong, it happens. Tomorrow is an opportunity for success.

22. I can love someone and not be with them. Love is a beautiful thing, we shouldn’t try to squash it.

23. I look good when I smile!

24. There is people who will listen and encourage you to be better.

25. I am amazing.   

Personal Update

It’s July, crazy how time can escape you. I just wanted to share a little personal update on my life so far. I normally stay away from pure personal blogging, but I think it’s good to know the person behind the blog sometimes. 

Few weeks ago I posted asking for advice on dealing with an ex of mine. As much as I might tell myself that I need to keep my distance somehow the universe has a way of getting us back together, and who am I to ignore. This past month we have hung out a few times and things have seemed to go well. Having a good time with him has never been an issue, we always seem to end up laughing and enjoying hanging out. While any normal person would consider this a friendship, I can’t seem to label it that. Who knows what will happen but for the time being I will take our new entangled lives.

I have kickstarted my working out again. Since I started working and had some back pain I’ve seriously slacked at the gym. I actually love working out, it’s just getting back into the swings of things that’s rough. I am even waking up at 5:30am a couple times a week to hit the gym before work…I’ll wait for the applause….You shouldn’t of, stop, you are making me blush.

Hope all my readers in the USA have a great Fourth Of July, and to the rest of you hope you have a great day. Always remember to look on the bright side, and make your own happiness. You are beautiful and you deserve to smile. 

Negative World

This is going to be annoying for some people to read but I am happy. I can truly say that I am smiling as I type this. By no means is my life perfect, but I’ve decided that I needed to take control of my happiness. So many people blame everything around them for their misery, but even in a sea of chaos you can be afloat in a vessel of joy. (I’ll give some of you time to vomit or roll your eyes) I read this book by Don Miguel Ruiz called “The Four Agreements” and it states four things you can alter in your life to be a better and happier you. None of his four things are new, but his reasoning for their importance truly enlightened me. I am more aware of my actions and those around me that might be trying to bring me down. I have control of how I deal with negativity, and I have chosen to not let it overtake me and keep me down.

My favorite agreement he made is “to not take anything personally”, simple enough right? But he goes into why we shouldn’t and in his writing I discovered a way to let negative things people say not affect me. He states that most of the things people say about you that are negative have more to do with them than yourself. We all have different opinions and belief systems, so why should we take the words someone throws at us as fact? If you ask people what they think about brocoli, you will get various answers ranging from delicious to it taste like rubber. If you think it’s delicious no one else’s opinion will make you start hating it. By taking their hurtful words as fact, you are now living in their belief system and throwing yours out the window. The only person living your life is you, no one else knows all your thoughts or beliefs, so you shouldn’t let anyone else opinions squash your beliefs. Don’t let their hurtful insults plant a seed in your mind that will start diminishing your own self worth. The only opinion that matters in your life is your own.

Choosing to be happy isn’t easy by any means, life has so much negativity in it but if you can root why that negativity is what it is, then you can see that it doesn’t matter so it shouldn’t affect you. Blaming others for your misery is the easy way out. No one else is going to help you just because you blame them. Take responsibility and control of your life, and you’ll realize your true strength.

Making yourself happy will come with its up and downs, but you shouldn’t be discourage when you notice you are letting the negativity get to you. Its a process, you can only do the best you can in that moment. So what if you were happy all day yesterday, but today you slipped and let someone’s words get to you. The important thing is you tried your best today, even though you didn’t have the same result you had yesterday, you still did all you could. Tomorrow you can try again. As long as you tried your best there really is no failure. As long as you are working towards happiness, you are on the right path. Don’t be your own worst critic.